Some of you may recall that my wife lost her sponsor a few months ago to cancer. She had developed a close relationship with her sponsor's sponsor, T., so she became my wife's new sponsor. They have developed a closeness that can only come from sharing, trust and love.
Today my wife received news that T. has been admitted to the hospital with two lesions on her lung and a mass on her brain. We are both full of sorrow. I guess that's putting it mildly. It feels more like my guts have been kicked in.
I am having difficulty concentrating at work. My wife is on her way to the hospital. I am praying for T. and others who are sick and suffering. I am doing my best to not cry. This is all a lot to deal with at the moment.
PS: I've decided that reading blogs is a good thing to do for an hour or so. And what you have written has made me smile and feel a lot of gratitude. These are life experiences that happen. As my dear mother used to say, "And they will happen more and more the older you get until you hope to be the last one standing." She generally made me smile too.
Syd,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear this awful news. I wish I could help. I will keep good thoughts for all of you.
Sending love,
SB
Such hard news. Love to you and your wife.
ReplyDeleteIm sorry. Sending hugs to both of you...
ReplyDeleteSyd how tragic for everyone. Seinding good thoughts to all today.
ReplyDeleteTake care of you and your wife Syd and I'll mention you all in my thoughts tonight.
ReplyDeleteSyd, my heart goes out to you both. Long suffering is never easy to endure but strength rises above it, hope kicks in and faith leads you through the journey. Prayers to you and all those who suffer in any capacity. Hugs. Tammy
ReplyDeleteSending love to you and your wife and prayers to T.
ReplyDeleteI will be praying for her, your wife and you and all involved. God holds each one of you.
ReplyDeletei am sorry to hear this news, please send love and light to your wife and to T, my thoughts and heart is with you all...
ReplyDeleteprayers and lovingkindness be yours...
Gabi
Syd this is just awful. I am so sorry. I am sending you and your wife love and wishes that you are able to cope during this difficult time. I think your mom sounds simply beautiful.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through this - and with your wife - it must be terrible to lose two sponsors within such a short time. I pray that your wife's sponsor doesn't suffer.
ReplyDeleteoh no, Syd..
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for you both..
please send my love and prayers..
the lesson I get over and over again in this program is that not only is pain inevitable, as well as loss, but that the only long-term connection we can completely depend upon is our higher power..
Again, I am so very sorry.
Oh I'm so sorry. What a tragedy. Know that God has her in His loving hands whatever the future holds.
ReplyDeleteThat tough news, love and hugs for you and your wife and praying for T.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear you are going through this, again, so soon.
ReplyDeleteLife continues to happen to us even when we think we can barely take another blow. I am so glad that youand your wife have your programs and the people in it to help carry you through.
ReplyDeletesheesh! Prayers going up for all!!!
ReplyDeleteSyd, both you and your wife have my prayers for your dear friend. Im sorry for your pain, and hers.
ReplyDeleteBlessings and peace, a day at a time, friend.
Christina
Sending prayers on the smoke. Thinking of you and your wife dear friend.
ReplyDeleteSomeone told me once I'm at the age, I should become accustomed to loss. I said the day that happens I have grown cold and unfeeling.
We feel the depth of the pain, because we DO care. (Hugs)Indigo
you are in my prayers, and your mothers quote, is awesome.
ReplyDeleteMy prayers are with you all. This is tough news.
ReplyDeleteAs we all know, we become so close to our sponsors. To lose one to cancer must have been so difficult. I cannot imagine how sad and scary this must be for you both. I am so sorry and I will keep you all in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteAt work we are seeing this more and more, relatively young people with metastatic lung cancer. Everyone please stop smoking.
ReplyDeleteSyd,that is one major Bummer.I will keep you and your wife and T.in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteI'm sending love and prayers to you both. You have been the very best of support for me this year while I grieved Annie. I'm sending all that care right back to you. jeNN
ReplyDeleteSyd, I'm so sorry - your family and your AA community are in my thoughts and prayers...
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you and yours...
Prayers said. I hope you both find some peace.
ReplyDeleteHow very difficult to have lost one sponsor and now face losing another so soon after the first. I cannot imagine how she and you are feeling. Words escape me.
ReplyDeleteThe best is to just say as almost everyone else has, I pray for you and your wife and for her sponsor and her family.
PG
I am so very sorry. Keeping you, your wife, and T in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteThat is sad news. My mom passed away and 6 months later my sister was diagnosed with stage IV stomach cancer. It is such a devastating blow and it just hits out of nowhere..I hate cancer! I will pray for you, your wife and her sponser right now. You are a great support to me, thank you for that.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear of the bad news. Sending you lots of good thoughts and hope for her recovery.
ReplyDeleteOh, Syd, I am so sorry about this sad news :( A good cry does wonders.
ReplyDeleteI like your mom, she was a wise woman.
i like your mother's comment... sorry about the sad news. you're in my prayers. all of you!
ReplyDeleteI'm really so sorry, Syd. What a lot for all of you to go through after already losing your wife's long time sponsor.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and deepest prayers are with you.
Thinking of you all at this difficult time Syd. God is good, try to remember that.
ReplyDeleteI am truly so so sorry to hera of this sadnness. I feel your anger, pain and hurt, as I am dealing with sort of same here.
ReplyDeleteI ask that God, look with mercy and grace toward your friend, towards you and your wife.May you find comfort and nourishment in this time of suffering
I pray your friend & you and your family, know GOD is there with you all through this difficulty. I pray with faith is God he will heal her, and comfort you throught this terrible ordeal.
I to find reading our friends post helps me smile. smiling is not just a social nicety, it transfers, warm feelings, positivity and love..
May God bless your friend and you at this terrible time..
SMILES
I find monks writing or talks helpful when there is the appearance of tragedy.
ReplyDeleteI find Tich nhat hanh's stuff very good because of his first hand experience of the vietnam war.
Sometimes the sadness can be another persons emotions that you are close to. As you become more sensitive you far more readily pick up on the emotions of those around you. Perhaps you are tuning in to your wife's reaction? you never know..
But being aware of the suffering of others is supposed to move us to tears. 'It hurts you more, but it bothers you less', as Ken Wilber says.
I believe we all have a destiny lined up a loooong time ago. I suppose we just have to have faith that things are happening as they should, whilst at the same time, using each situation to be of service.
I hope things settle a little and you get the support you need.
What a horrible situation. You should never give up hope you know. Miracles really do happen now and then ~ I should know
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteI think that what your mother said is so true. That's been my experience the past 5 years.