I was talking to my sponsor this morning about how calm and serene my life seems today. There are moments when the old stuff tries to ooze back to the surface of my psyche, but all in all, I have little to get me off balance these days. My sponsor says that is a sign of recovery. I like to think that it is a sign of how recovery is helping to keep a balance within myself and with those around me.
The calls do come in from those who are off balance. I just received one from a man who attends some of my meetings. He regularly reaches out to me to talk about his son who is an alcoholic. The call a few minutes ago was from a frantic man whose 28 year old son came home drunk last night at 3 AM, broke glasses in the kitchen, and locked himself in the study with a decanter.
I asked the man how he was doing, already knowing the answer to that just from his voice. He said that he didn't know whether to talk to his son or not this morning. I asked him whether he knew much about boundaries. And then said that one of my boundaries was not living with active alcoholic drinking. We talked a bit more about having a boundary in which the son understands that he will not be welcome should he decide to come home drunk.
And then I suggested that the father go with me to an open AA speaker meeting at noon. That would enable him to calm down; to hear an alcoholic's experience, strength and hope; and to talk more about what he thinks would be appropriate in terms of talking to his son and setting some boundaries.
I am grateful to be where I am today. I am grateful that others feel comfortable reaching out to me. I can take them to a meeting where they may hear something that will not only open their hearts but clear their head as well. God seems to provide the balance in my life. And today he is directing me to help another person who is teetering find a little balance too.
PS: Thanks for all the questions that I have received. You guys have sent me some tough ones! It's still not too late to ask a question. See yesterday's post about what's up with ?? I will be posting the questions and answers tomorrow. So be as bizarre and original as you'd like. That's part of the fun.