I had lunch with a sponsee today. He lives in an old kitchen house downtown. It's an adventure to go through the flooded streets of the city during a heavy rain. The city was built on marsh that was filled with garbage. Consequently, drainage is poor. Water floods cars on a regular basis. And the flooding fuels much discussion about getting a better drainage system. But mostly people just slog through the water.
I got to his place without incident, avoiding the worst flooded areas. When I arrived, his cat was enjoying the view from the window sill.
We had a great lunch as he is a good cook. We caught up on our lives. He decided after finishing the steps that going to meetings wasn't his thing. I knew after he completed Step Twelve that it was unlikely he would darken the door of a meeting again. He seems content though, attributing his peace to the program. He broke off a contentious relationship that fueled his co-dependency and is no longer obsessing over the person. He admitted that he could not have let go of an unhealthy relationship without first getting himself to a better place through the steps. It is good that we can get together and not have aspects of the program be a point of disagreement.
He gave me the card above with a note of appreciation. The message on the card has a lot of meaning for me. It reminds me of the seemingly uncharted territory when one starts in recovery. With faith one moves to discover a new way of living. And in the process finds that what once seemed uncharted was clearly marked by those who came before.