I have been on the water again today doing the last ecotours of the year for students. Yesterday I was not at my best. I was sad about the loss of my dog, worried about my in-laws, and feeling quite put out by what I consider to be unprofessional behavior by a fellow on the boat.
This particular fellow is in a position of authority. He is competent at what he does. What is bothering me is his continual flirtatious comments to the teenage girls that go on the cruises. He is continually telling some how beautiful or cute they are. He makes references to how men in their forties used to marry teens so that they could have many children.
I talked to C. about this last night and expressed my concern over what I thought could be sexual harassment. At the very least, what appears to be objectifying these young girls is troubling. I am not quite sure what to do. I have thought about saying something to the boat owner. However, neither the chaperones or teachers seem to notice this and have not voiced any concerns.
Last night, C. recalled her experiences in graduate school where she was propositioned by professors and other men who were in a position of power over a graduate student. It left her feeling uncomfortable and angry. Yesterday, I had much the same feeling when I overheard the comments being made.
Al-Anon teaches me to practice the program in all aspects of my life. I have learned that judging others is not useful. Perhaps this really is none of my business. I simply don't know.