Monday, September 12, 2011

This morning I didn't get up with the sunrise.  I got back to the marina around 8 PM last night.  The moon was beautiful as it rose up in the sky, glowing against the fading pink light and the green marsh.  Heading towards the city,  there were many boats filled with shrimp baiters, trying to fill their coolers on the second day of the season.  I don't know whether we will go this year.  If C. is up to it, we will get out and see what we can catch in the cast net.

I didn't feel sad or vengeful or entrenched yesterday in thoughts of 9/11.  I am sure that if a loved one of mine had died or I had managed to live through the ordeal myself,  I would feel differently.  I know that my thoughts yesterday were about being grateful to be alive and appreciating all the beauty that surrounded me.  I respect the feelings of those who want to cling to the past, no matter how painful it is.  I revisit the past on occasion and find that it is not a place where I want to dwell.

I know that I feel solidly at peace today.  Words that I read yesterday helped me to stay in balance.  I am not a part of the "never forget" ideology.  But I also feel sadness and compassion for those who still grieve.  We are all grieving some loss.  And like a tongue that goes to a sore tooth,  we revisit those losses from time to time.  I like this quote from L. P. Hartley, "The past is a foreign country: they do things differently there".

Tonight,  I'll go to my home group meeting.  Soon, my sponsor will be leaving for the other coast.  I am coming to terms with that eventual parting.  We have shared some profound things.  And I see that continuing even with the move.  It is not a loss, just a shift.

I think that we all shift in this life.  And eventually we re-settle.  Upheaval takes a lot of energy.  The steady state eventually returns. I would rather have these quiet days that are open ended.  Today my life feels steady.  That may change in an instant, but in this moment I will revel in the steady and mundane things.

15 comments:

  1. being at peace is a great place to be in one's life.I feel peaceful when I blog surfing and visiting with my blog friends.

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  2. And that is exactly what I am doing today, too.

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  3. you are right in labeling it a theology...and i dont buy completely into it either...i would rather peace than anger any day

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  4. I can't thank you enough for sharing Syd, your words are so powerful to me. I like L.P. Hartley's quote. I really needed that perspective of not losing someone but a shift in life. I believe there are some shifts on my horizon that scares me silly! I'm working through the fear that appears under the surface. But, I'm taking it moment by moment and we shall see what direction my sea of shifting drifts. I'm praying for the strength and courage to keep it together during the possible upheaval... Have a wonderful day!

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  5. I thought about that day and where I was in my own life. It made me think about how quickly nothing matters but the people you love.

    It would be nice if we could stay in that place but human nature is to forget both the good and the bad.

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  6. My feelings about 911 and that whole ordeal mirror yours.
    I have let it go and moved on.

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  7. I thought of 9/11 yesterday from time to time but did not care to watch any of the news or memorials. I did not know anyone that died that day and feel a little like an intruder watching the grieving of others. I did feel a little sad but not vengeful or entrenched. I like the quote. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. So I wonder whether you will decide to find a new sponsor. Having had folks move out of my geographic area, I've realized that for a time, the ties are important after the move, but that it is helpful to have a back-up, not so much for support, but for the richness of intimacy and shared journey... Face to face can't be beat. And as I get older, it is good to CONTINUE to branch out... I am seeking a Sponsor myself, as mine kind of fired me a little while ago. ;O

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  9. I prefer quiet reflection of the events. I actually caught a few minutes of a tribute by Keith Richards & the Stones..huh?..it seemed over the top.

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  10. For many people I think 9/11 will end when America goes home. Good to hear you sounding so peaceful Syd.

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  11. I feel very much the same as you Syd. It was a time of reflection for me. Where I've been, where I'm going. Take care.

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  12. I'm with you on this one, Syd. I live in Manhattan, was here when it happened and knew people who died. I believe everyone grieves differently and in their own time, but I think re-traumatizing people (hello, media),and staying in grief is not the natural order of things. I have lost several people in my life, will always love them, and know the purpose of their live(s) was not to keep me stuck. Love and remembrance is different from rumination and stagnation.
    Monica

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  13. It is a fine thing to revel in the peace of the day.

    I love you, buddy.

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  14. We are going through a major shift, and it's a good thing for more reasons that we knew when we decided to make the shift. Too much happening to put into a comment, but I'll post about it soon. Shifting is good.

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