I was listening to some people talking at the meeting last night and the question came up about how Al-Anons work their program. I think that it's about the same way that the AA's work their program, through a proactive approach. For me, working the Al-Anon program means going to meetings and conventions, reading literature, keeping in touch with my HP and my sponsor, meditation, doing a written and electronic journal, chairing meetings, taking food to meetings, making calls to those in trouble, and helping others get to meetings. I'm not at the point where I can sponsor anyone but am looking forward to doing 12 step service work.
The things mentioned above are all outward action steps. There is another dimension to working the program and that is through internal changes. These are changes in attitude and recognition of a Higher Power to share some of the load. My attitude adjustment means that I no longer take on more things than I want to. I break my life into small pieces that I can handle and also enjoy. And I've learned how to relax which is a wonderful benefit of the program. I have learned that I don't have to get everything done today. Things can wait. I no longer make lists of things to do. In my previous chaotic life, I would keep busy and not focus on what was going on inside of me. Today, I work at focusing inward with less emphasis on focusing outward. The result is that I've got feelings of self-worth, gratitude and a lot of positive energy.