Monday, October 8, 2007

I'm not sure but I think....

that I'm being shut out. I've called a friend with whom I used to do a lot of things and have left several messages. No return phone call. Our friendship went down hill after I revealed that my wife and I were having problems. I just didn't feel like hiding it anymore. Maybe I was too honest but whatever the reason, there is very little of our old friendship left. I know that it's time to make amends.

My sponsor has said that my amends may not be accepted at first. I'm thinking that will be okay. I would like to simply state that I put too many expectations on the friendship and overburdened it with my own personal issues. I know that the friendship has been altered and I'm not sure whether it can be revived. Or whether I want it to be revived. I'm finding that the less I'm around people who are judgmental and critical, the better I feel.

Maybe his part in my story is over. Maybe I'm just trying to resusitate something that has breathed its last breath.


  1. I thought friendship meant you could express your feelings openly and honestly. I am not sure why you would need to make amends.

  2. Interesting how people are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Very intesting dynamics.
    I must admit that I kinda agree with what Pat says above. But I don't know any details, so I leave it to you to make those calls.

  3. I don't know why you have to make amends..perhaps you gave him too much information? perhaps he doesn't know how to handle it?
    I don't know the whole I'll shut up.
    Perhaps he's done his his 'time' in your life and you need to move on.

  4. friends are around, no matter what, i believe. and people do outgrow one another. sometimes letting them go is meant to be. but do what feels right to you!

  5. I hope you figure this out darlin'. Don't obsess, we never really know what is going on in peoples head...hell he could just be out of town ;)

  6. some friends are long term some short some for the minute God putss them in our life to learn something or for them to learn something. Sometimes I make amends of I have a part sometimes I have to just walk on. Either way it alwys hurts a bit to lose a friend

  7. I finally shared that I was going to AA with one of my dear friends. Her response was, oh that's nice, now about my hemmorroids.. I'm serious. It didn't suprise me. And I have an understanding that my friendship with her will never get to a deeper level. It will never be a give and take. I will always be the listener. And that's okay with me. I'm not sure how long it will be okay for her but I have nothing to give her anymore. I cannot share what she cannot receive. So really it is up to her (and maybe your friend) where the relationship goes.


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