that I'm being shut out. I've called a friend with whom I used to do a lot of things and have left several messages. No return phone call. Our friendship went down hill after I revealed that my wife and I were having problems. I just didn't feel like hiding it anymore. Maybe I was too honest but whatever the reason, there is very little of our old friendship left. I know that it's time to make amends.
My sponsor has said that my amends may not be accepted at first. I'm thinking that will be okay. I would like to simply state that I put too many expectations on the friendship and overburdened it with my own personal issues. I know that the friendship has been altered and I'm not sure whether it can be revived. Or whether I want it to be revived. I'm finding that the less I'm around people who are judgmental and critical, the better I feel.
Maybe his part in my story is over. Maybe I'm just trying to resusitate something that has breathed its last breath.
I thought friendship meant you could express your feelings openly and honestly. I am not sure why you would need to make amends.
ReplyDeleteInteresting how people are in our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Very intesting dynamics.
ReplyDeleteI must admit that I kinda agree with what Pat says above. But I don't know any details, so I leave it to you to make those calls.
I don't know why you have to make amends..perhaps you gave him too much information? perhaps he doesn't know how to handle it?
ReplyDeleteI don't know the whole story..so I'll shut up.
Perhaps he's done his his 'time' in your life and you need to move on.
friends are around, no matter what, i believe. and people do outgrow one another. sometimes letting them go is meant to be. but do what feels right to you!
ReplyDeleteI hope you figure this out darlin'. Don't obsess, we never really know what is going on in peoples head...hell he could just be out of town ;)
ReplyDeletesome friends are long term some short some for the minute God putss them in our life to learn something or for them to learn something. Sometimes I make amends of I have a part sometimes I have to just walk on. Either way it alwys hurts a bit to lose a friend
ReplyDeleteI finally shared that I was going to AA with one of my dear friends. Her response was, oh that's nice, now about my hemmorroids.. I'm serious. It didn't suprise me. And I have an understanding that my friendship with her will never get to a deeper level. It will never be a give and take. I will always be the listener. And that's okay with me. I'm not sure how long it will be okay for her but I have nothing to give her anymore. I cannot share what she cannot receive. So really it is up to her (and maybe your friend) where the relationship goes.
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