I was thinking last night after my home group meeting about the remarkable changes that have happened to me and others through the program of Al-Anon. It's a peaceful feeling on most days. I don't feel all edgy, empty and anxious. I actually look forward to my time alone which is something that I never liked before.
I have learned to temper my expectations and by doing that I am pleasantly surprised when things go well. The program has taught me a lot about acceptance of others and not to react with anger when people differ from me in how they live their lives.
I've also learned to accept myself a lot better. I realize that being perfect isn't an option. I don't need to make comparisons with others on their relationships.
I've learned that it's possible to forgive myself for past transgressions. And that mistakes made in the present can be recognized quickly and amends made before resentments build.
These things aren't novel to Al-Anon or AA but they are novel for me. Seeing others change is like looking in a mirror. I can also see how I've changed for the better.