One of the things that the title of her blog brings to mind is that the happy face we put forth to the world masks a mess underneath. I've always liked the saying that "Happiness is an inside job". But one of the challenges in recovery is to understand how to go about fixing my inside so that I am able to feel the happiness that I know is buried within.
I've read something in one of the on line forums that it's best to "live life, and allow happiness to find me", as opposed to trying to pursue happiness. This is a lesson that is starting to finally make sense to me. I believe in the words, but sometimes have difficulty in actually applying them to my everyday life.
And another truth that I have come to accept is that we really do control our attitudes, outlook and ultimately happiness based upon the perspectives that we bring to things. So basically my inner world has a lot to do with what happens externally and my thoughts and emotions have a huge effect on the course of my life.
Here are some truths that Brenda Ehrler discovered during recovery and highlights in her book Learning to Be You, It's an Inside Job:
- I was contributing to unhealthy behavior
- I needed recovery and healing
- My own beliefs have prevented me from achieving joy
- If I don't feel love for myself, I can't give love
- I have the power to change beliefs that no longer work for me
- My thoughts create my experiences
- I have control of my thoughts
- I have no control over the actions of others
- Everything works together for a purpose
- Discomfort does not go away, it becomes an adventure