Some wise words to think about today:"I don't care if I ever have another relationship. As soon as you call it a relationship, the measuring stick comes out. A friendship is when we see each other we are happy to be together and we miss each other when we aren't together and look forward to the time we can be together again."
"We suffer from brief enthusiastic encounters. God determines the miracles that last. I see you're still here! Be happy...this is the one thing that has never been brief."
wise indeed. and timely.
ReplyDeleteAhhhh - keeping the measuring stick from coming out. That's the real test for me as to how well my relationship with God is working.
ReplyDeleteI felt judged and measured from early childhood and did a great job of incorporating that habit for myself. Thank God for Al-Anon. It has helped me see when I'm 'yardsticking' myself. It's a relief that I do a lot less of it these days. Now I can love and be loved a lot easier.
See what your short post brought to mind? Thanks!
PG
right, i'm all for a passionate friendship then, heee heee heee. have a super sunday syd! that your boat?
ReplyDeleteMy marriage is much more than a friendship or a relationship.
ReplyDeleteOne of the toughest and most revolutionary aspects of getting sober has been unlearning what I thought I knew about relationships and intimacy and letting go.
ReplyDeleteThanks Syd
Mary LA
Happy Sunday Syd!jeNN
ReplyDeleteThose are great thoughts, thanks for sharing them.
ReplyDeleteThank you for boiling down a concept I had been struggling with lately. Wonderful words, thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteIt sounds nice... but there should be some 'accountability' especially in a marriage or a deepening romantic relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou are supposed to 'give' without expecting anything in return; ......but on the other hand if you find you are the GIVER for the majority of the time; that relationship should be measured and asked why?? (martyrdom?? codependencies..; complacency??) ..
Friendships are easier than romantic joining..
Otherwise it is free LOVE.. and no responsibilities at all.
And you do have to measure the pluses and the minuses.. and see if you want to be in this type of 'relationship' for want of a better word. :) (smile).
Just my two cents.
I feel sometimes like your blog is a way for me to know deeper my own father's heart, a man who struggles with alcohol. Does that make any sense?
ReplyDeleteSerious stuff. Don't we all get measured throughout life, and usually by someone else's standards?
ReplyDeleteThe photos are fantastic.
I like that!
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