Thursday, June 25, 2009
Rise and fall
Around sunset yesterday I was walking on the beach looking at the tall ships that had come into the Harbor for the maritime festival. It was peaceful with the waves lapping on the shore, the sun going down, and a gentle breeze blowing away the heat of the day.
I was watching a little girl dancing in the sand while her dad took photos of the setting sun. Little did I know at the time that a few blocks away Jenny Sanford and her four children were dealing with the fallout of her husband's affair.
I'm not going to pass any judgment on Gov. Sanford. I have my own opinions about his political views but am not going to write about that here. I have a lot of compassion for human failing. What happened to him has happened in marriages for centuries and will continue to happen. I like what the Big Book has to say," We do not want to be the arbiter of anyone's sex conduct" (I have often wondered why the sexual inventory is discussed on pg. 69). And I like that one can make amends and restitution for wrongs done.
But how this all plays out with his family is between them. I know that it's going to be painful and difficult. This is their dark night of the soul.
Marriage can be a wonderful thing, and it can also be difficult. I have no idea what went on behind the walls of the Governor's mansion. But somehow, someway there must have been isolation and desolation. And a kind of desperation that leads people down a path where they grope for anything, booze, sex, pills, to escape the deadness of the soul.
I hope that this family will be able to work through their pain. Maybe a walk on the beach to watch the sunset will help.