We hear that the rooms of Al-Anon are a safe place. I certainly have felt comfortable to share my story at these meetings. But there are situations that may arise in which a spouse or relative is "stalked" by an alcoholic who comes to the meeting.
I have read that if a wet drunk shows up at an AA meeting, that person is helped by a couple of the members. I can't find anything about what to do if an intoxicated person shows up at an Al-Anon meeting. I would like to think that this is a rare occurrence but with individuals who are separating from the alcoholic, such a situation could indeed arise and in fact has occurred recently.
The first thought that came to mind was that a couple of men who were there could see if the "new" man would like to go talk in a separate area. Or perhaps a couple of the women could take the crying spouse to another room. This presents a potentially explosive situation though. Maybe the best course is to ask the intoxicated person to leave and if they don't, then call the police. I was wondering what the thoughts are of those who have experienced this.
The thought that someone would feel unsafe at an Al-Anon meeting hasn't crossed my mind until now. Most of us believe in "Live and Let Live" and aren't too comfortable dealing with potentially unsafe situations at a meeting. However, Tradition One states that "our common welfare should come first". Al-Anon needs to be a safe place for people who are troubled by someone else's drinking.
Any suggestions would be much appreciated. It is a subject that will likely be brought up at a future group conscience meeting.