I was talking with a friend about the "sense of entitlement" that seems to permeate a lot of society today. It's the narcissistic ego that tends to think that the world "owes" them something, and they intend to collect as soon as possible. Maybe you know someone who always wants more. Or who doesn't seem to appreciate what has been done. There is no gratitude, no thanks. These are the people who simply expect that they are the center of my world at all times.
I can remember my dad telling me that I was never satisfied. I think that I was one of the kids who wanted something more, always searching for what I couldn't have. I asked for a pony for years, and finally we got a dog that I loved. The pony wish kept going until I had my own horse. But I do remember being told not to whine or to pester. My father didn't tolerate whining. So perhaps that constrained the sense of entitlement to deserve what I want when I wanted it.
I have worked for the things that I've achieved. I never saw a different way. There was no sense that I deserved something other than what I was working toward. When it comes to my dealings with others, the whole sense of entitlement is a bit trickier. With people I hold as acquaintances, I find that they deserve to be treated as I would like to be treated. I see no point in being impatient or rude. Instead I think that having compassion and humility are what help me to have a healthy and balanced sense of what I have and who I am.
But I have also had an unhealthy sense of entitlement. I have tried to control the alcoholics in my life so that they would do what I said. That was because I thought I knew better than they did. I also wanted them to shower me with affection when I didn't really show much affection to them. Instead, I was filled with resentment. I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted it.
I'm glad to now have humility and to be grateful for what I have. I receive many chances through God's grace to be a better person with the right sense of entitlement. I do believe that as long as I am able to love and respect myself then it is more likely that those things will be returned to me.