"Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like."
— Lao Tzu
One of my favorite and long-time blogging friends, Dave, at Higher Powered has decided to stop his daily blog after 3514 posts. He was one of the first bloggers that I read when I started. Dave, Mary Christine, Pammie, Scott W., Scout, Meg, Tab, and several others were inspiring to me. I've said before that blogging is like a community or even a neighborhood. New people come in, and sometimes the ones who have been around for a long time decide it's time to move on. I will miss Dave, just as I've missed others who have stopped writing. But like most things, it's flexible. There are no musts. I like that.
One of the great things about blogging is that you come through with comments that help me. Your thoughts about my MIL were helpful and comforting. I think that Hospice may be the best thing for her. Having the Hospice folks come to her house and work with the caregivers already there will be good.
When I visited her yesterday, I was happy that she knew who I was. I did get her to eat a little something too. She has a sense of humor still, telling me that she didn't feel too "Christmasy" yet. Her speech is impaired so it's hard to understand her. I photographed her. I've been doing this over the years but want to capture as much of her as possible. It feels urgent to do so now.
People come and go in our lives. Some are with us for decades. We get used to them being around. And then, one day they are gone. I am accepting of that, even though there is some part of me that grieves for the loss, doesn't like the absence, resists changes.
“I give you this to take with you:
Nothing remains as it was. If you know this, you can
begin again, with pure joy in the uprooting.”
― Judith Minty