The backyard landscaping project is coming along. The walkway and patio are installed, and next week the fireplace will be built. I am looking forward to having the first fire out there. We have plenty of wood stored from the death of an old water oak in the spring. Months later, we finally finished splitting and storing it.
I was on the boat for a few days this week. It was as windy as I've seen it and cold. The boat was covered in salt spray so I gave her a good rinse down yesterday. Thankfully, I was able to stay warm with the propane heater going and a heavy double comforter with flannel sheets.
I have met with a new fellow I'm sponsoring several times over the last week. We are managing to get past the constant focusing on the alcoholic and are actually beginning to talk about what his actions are and how unmanageable his life is. I don't know how it's going to go when I sponsor a new person. Some are willing, some say they are willing but aren't, and some simply give up before any work is done. So far this fellow appears to be willing to do the work.
Trust is something that has to be established as part of a relationship between a sponsor and sponsee. I can feel that trust is being established as we talk and share with each other. I have been a trusting person all my life. It's odd that only in recent years have I learned to be more discerning about who I trust.
And I know that to a couple of people, I let them down. They trusted me to be who they wanted me to be, and I failed by being someone else who was imperfect. I have made amends to them for my part. That's about all I can do. Maybe one of these days, the realization will come that none of us is without defects of character.
In the mean time, I keep moving along in a positive direction. Discussions with the landscaper today were about the plants that we are going to put in along the new walkways in the backyard. Discussion with the new sponsee were about letting go of old ways and developing a new plan for living life. The magic of growing. It all feels good to me.